09 Oct Searching for Paradise
Everyone is searching for paradise. By Paradise, I don’t mean that little perfect island, with palm trees and the clear blue water. I mean your happiest state. People also don’t realise that Paradise is a constantly moving state, changing as your priorities do.
For some people Paradise is that perfect little island (it is for me at the moment), for some people it is working on a farm, and for other people it is earning lots of money in the city and buying a big house. Sometimes I can be a little judgmental about people wanting to earn lots of money, which is a fault of mine. If that is genuinely what people want the most in life then good luck to you, you are just as enlightened as the hippy, living in a retreat, who has realised money means nothing to him.
Paradise can change as well for people. I hope that in a couple of years my paradise is spending time with my children and family, not getting punched in the face by professional athletes. I do accept however, that what I want now, might not be what I want in a couple of years time. People come in and out of your life and your own paradise gets altered to become a collective paradise – somewhere you can both live to your happiest degree.
People talk a lot about “finding yourself”, but for me, it is not about finding yourself, it is about working out what you want from life that is the key. In other words, what is your paradise.
In order to stop thinking about this mythical place called Paradise, and turn into something real, you must work out how you are going to get there. I find working backwards from your paradise state is the best way to do this, as it helps you decide which things are necessary and which things are holding you back, and pushing you off course. I decided a little while back that I wanted to be a full time writer. Obviously to get to that point, I had to actually write some stuff, not just say I would like to be one. The last few months have been a great creative outlet in that sense, and I have various projects on the go. Of course, some people might think I am a crap writer, but I’m still a writer!
Circumstances change when good and bad things happen, and as some people know, this has been an emotional couple of weeks for me, and those around me, and I am trying to take the positive from the experience, which is that it has sharpened my focus on building the life that I want.
So I guess what I have realised the most is, whatever your paradise is, show some commitment to it, and go for it with everything you have got, otherwise it will remain just a dream.
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